Ep—10 Candor: Speaking the truth in love

Speaking the truth in love

Speaking the truth in love

Our topic is Candor for the next 5 weeks 🙂 Candor is being able to speak the truth in love

Definition of candor— Candor | Definition of candor by Merriam-Webster freedom from prejudice or malice: fairness. 3. archaic: kindliness. 4. unreserved, honest, or sincere expression: forthrightness.

  • Candor can mean not speaking or leaving a situation that’s unhealthy
  • Women don’t have to be like men.
  • Just because the world says to get what we want we have to push to get what we want doesn’t mean we have to be that way.
  • Don’t give away your power to someone who doesn’t have the right to hold it. Walking away from a situation before you lose control allows you to keep your power and not give it away.
  • There’s a time for righteous indignation. But not every fight is that time.
  • Exhaustion can make us snap and say what we don’t intend.
  • Graciousness allows us to be wise and recognize our own fatigue, irritation, hunger, etc. so we take ourselves out of a situation rather than stay and let it go “south”.
  • Boundaries are a time to speak up. Hold your ground when your boundaries are crossed.
  • A firm voice doesn’t make a person rude. Firmness is important when boundaries are disrespected. A woman is not one of the many cuss words because she holds her boundaries.
  • Ask yourself: Do I feel like I have the right to my own boundaries? Do I feel like I’m always being stepped on? What words can I say that will hold my boundaries?
  • Learn to say “no” when I don’t want to do something or have something done.
  • Do people hide what they don’t know how to deal with? When we hide things, that doesn’t mean others are being unfair. Speak up.
  • Life is not fair. Throw out the window the idea that life and people are always supposed to be fair.
  • Some people do want to act miserably. We don’t have to stay around those people.
  • Ask: Am I tired or irritated or angry? Is the noise level or input level over-stimulating? If the answer is yes, it’s better to take ourselves out of that situation rather than say or do something we’d regret. Take time to refresh and rejuvenate so we can be kind, honest, and sincere.
  • Speak the truth in love to other people AND to yourself. Know when you can’t handle what’s going on around you.
  • Our integrity takes a hit when we act against our internal sense of self and intention. Then our self-image gets lowered.
  • Unreserved doesn’t mean no filter on our mouths. It means not holding back compliments, honesty, grace. Being sincere and kind in our expression so we raise others up and not tear others down.
  • Self-discipline means having the discipline to leave when we’re in a weak spot internally.
  • How do you feel when someone else always has to have the last word or a “dig”? It’s crossing a boundary. Speaking the truth in love might offer a question: When situation was resolved, why did you feel you needed to say more? The question gives the other person something to think about. We don’t have to make them understand they’re wrong. But asking leading questions at least gives them something to think about.
  • It’s not up to us to heal all the other people in the world of hurt and malice. That’s God’s job. God is the only fairness and healing. It’s up to that person and God to work those issues through. I have to leave it with them because I can’t make another person be what I want them to be.
  • If being kind, honest, sincere and holding to personal standards is important, then pay attention to whether you should stay in or leave a situation. If you have the possibility of going against your set of standards, what will you do? Think it through in advance to avoid being a hypocrite.
  • Do you want your words to bless others or act as a stumbling block?
  • Ask: Can I maintain my dignity in this moment?
  • To break the cycles of bad habits or behavior, we have to choose to act and react differently than we have up to that moment. Changing our behavior can change the outcome.
  • Dig deep for your gem of wisdom so you don’t keep spitting in the wind. Sometimes we get humiliated by someone else or on our own. Learn from that and don’t keep spitting in the wind.
  • Your integrity, honesty, genuineness of being help you like the person in the mirror.

Did you miss the topics of Courage or Confidence? 

Episode 1: The difference between courage and Confidence

Episode 2: Confidence strategies

Episode 3: Behaving like a confident woman

Episode 4: Teaching our daughters confidence

Episode 5: Courage (Facing our Fears)

Tips for resources:

Grace Under Pressure Radio on iTunes

Gems of Wisdom: For a Treasure-filled Life (paperback book)

Gems of Wisdom: For a treasure-filled life. (paperback book)

Gems of Wisdom: For a treasure-filled life. (paperback book)

Available for individual reading, group Bible study, or book clubs. Group discounts also available. Please contact me and let me know how many copies you need. I’ll also be happy to Skype, Google Hangout, Facetime into your group for presentations and discussions.

Thanks for spending time with me,



07 — Overcoming Specific Fears

Dive in!
Angie still swims today!

I still love swimming and diving, especially with my kids and grandkids 🙂

  • What huge fear has you paralyzed? Admit fear exists and embrace the fear rather than running from it.
  • Most of the time, building it up in your mind is harder than facing the fear itself.
  • What positive outcome do you want more than staying afraid?
  • What negative outcome is worse than dealing with the fear?
  • Diving into embrace the fear is often the easiest way through it.
  • The words in your head matter when facing fears.
  • Thinking poorly of someone trying to help you get through the fear creates a block to overcoming the fear as well as breaks relationship.
  • Anger at someone trying to help you through the fear is debilitating and deflects the responsibility for action.
  • Take deep breaths.
  • Count (especially if it’s just a matter of starting the action).
  • It helps manage your fear, the rush of adrenaline, and reminds you Someone bigger is in control.
  • Take it one thing at a time.
  • Start with the most familiar to help you begin.
  • If it stung, don’t quit. Think about the little things you can tweak to try again.

Who can you help with what you learned from the fearful experience?

Arcing back dive into an underwater circle (used in synchronized swimming).

Arcing back dive into an underwater circle (used in synchronized swimming).

Did you miss the other episodes in this series on Courage?

Episode 05 Facing our fears part 1 with Elizabeth Diane Wells

Episode 05.5 Bonus episode, what changed Elizabeth’s life?

Episode 06 Facing our fears part 2 with Elizabeth Diane Wells


Facebook Party for A Healing Heart Audible Book!

Facebook party Sep 3
Facebook party Sep 3

Come Join the Fun. Sep 3rd!

Grace Under Pressure podcast promo cartoon

Are you coming to the party? 

You can start by listening to the Grace Under Pressure Radio interview with Elizabeth Diane Wells all about courage and facing fears! It’s going live on Tuesday on iTunes!

Link to iTunes show page where you can subscribe, leave a rating and review for extra entries into the prize drawings. And click here to go to the Facebook party on Sep 3rd.


Congratulations! Please private message the author offering the prize. They’ll do the same so they can get choices, when offered, of ebook or paperback and/or address to mail the prize or email it.
AND…the winners are:
Joyce Gibson — Snowflake Tiara ebook
Emily Yost — Snowflake Tiara ebook
Betti Mace — Snowflake Tiara ebook
Debbie Lowe Roth — Snowflake Tiara ebook
Mary Ellen Ashfelder — Snowflake Tiara ebook
Helen Gardner — Snowflake Tiara ebook
Rebbie Lee — Snowflake Tiara ebook
Cindy Fowell — Snowflake Tiara ebook
Cheryl Baranski — Creative Cooking for Simple Elegance ecookbook
Tina StClair Rice — Creative Cooking for Simple Elegance ecookbook
Crystal Fussell Walls — Creative Cooking for Simple Elegance ecookbook
Regina Fujitani — Creative Cooking for Simple Elegance ecookbook
Audra Harders — Creative Cooking for Simple Elegance ecookbook
Tina Wilson — Leann Harris’ book, The Last Lie.
Carrie Moore Gould — Laurie Alice Eakes’ book, Choices of the Heart and 1 Skype or Google Hangout with Angie, date to be determined.
Halita Wilson — S.E. Thomas’ book, Habukkuk’s Plea
Debbie Curto — Gems of Wisdom 10 book pack for Bible study or Book Club, including a virtual visit by Angie at a date to be determined together.
Carmen Gentilli Hoover — Christmas Traditions (including the sequel to Snowflake Tiara, Eleven Pipers Piping, and 7 more books, too)
Rebekah Millett — Audio book, A Healing Heart
Mary Hake — Audio book, A Healing Heart
Bree Herron — Audio book, A Healing Heart
Jasmine Augustine — Audio book, A Healing Heart
Sherida Stewart — Audio book, A Healing Heart
I think I have everyone listed. But if for some reason I missed a name, I’ll double check tomorrow afternoon. I’ll be spending tomorrow afternoon getting prizes out to everyone. But if you haven’t heard from me by Saturday morning, please contact me by private message. There’ll be a few more Facebook parties coming this fall, including Sep. 14th! That one is all apple-themed! So be watching for your invite to that party and more awesome prizes from published authors!
Thank you so much for coming tonight!
Angie Breidenbach

What prizes will be awarded?

  • 5 grand prizes of A Healing Heart Audible audio book voiced by Miss Elizabeth Diane Wells.
  • 1 huge book club or Bible study group package of 10 Gems of Wisdom: For a treasure-filled life paperback books (so invite all your book club or Bible study so you get more chances to win it!)
  • Ebooks like Snowflake Tiara, Eleven Pipers Piping in the Christmas Traditions series, Creative Cooking for Simple Elegance…
  • A virtual visit to your book club or Bible study with Angela Breidenbach on Skype or Google Hangout.

Eight heartwarming novellas of Christmas’s gone by where the true meaning of the season warms your heart and love flows as fast as apple cider. Grab your favorite drink, no matter the temperature outside, curl up in a cozy chair and lose yourself in holiday romance. Eleven Pipers Piping is in this set that’s currently held #1 in several Amazon Bestselling categories for a couple of weeks now!  Would you like 8 books in 1?
3 more authors are guest appearing and giving away these books!


  • Leann Harris’ prize will be The Last Truth.
The Last Truth by Leann Harris

The Last Truth by Leann Harris

Betrayed by her fiancé to the Nazis, Linette Van Linder escapes the clutches of the Waffen SS and runs into American reporter, Michael St. James. Michael refuses to abandon the woman who just ran into his life and knows he can’t allow her to be arrested for standing for justice. The only way he is able to save her is marry her to get the exit visa. Their forced marriage becomes more than a simple means to an end, but two souls bound in the fires of war. Linette works as a spy for the British Army while Michael joins the American Army and becomes attached to Dwight D. Eisenhower. As Linette and Michael join the fight to win against the darkness that has settled across Europe, they struggle to come to grips with the people they’ve become. And wonder if their love will survive the struggle.

About Leann: Leann has always had stories running around her head, and started writing when her youngest child started school.  Her first book was published in 1993. She’s a teacher of the deaf and written all her adult life. She’s been contracted with Harlequin through her eighteenth book. She’s written romantic suspense, inspirational romantic suspense, futuristic and inspirational romance. She has also ventured into Indi books. In the series of Legacy of Lies, Book1-The Last Lie, 06/14, Book 2-The Last Truth, 11/14 are out. Book 3-Stolen Secrets should be out in early Fall 2015. Her last LI book, A Rancher for Their Mom, was a June 2015 release.

  • Laurie Alice Eakes’s prize will be a copy of Choices of the Heart,
    3rd in the midwife series, either ebook or paperback, winner’s choice, plus a surprise 

She thought she had left her old life behind . . .
Esther Cherrett comes from a proud line of midwives and was trained by her mother to take over the family calling. When a terrible scandal threatens all she holds dear, Esther flees, taking a position as a teacher in the wild western mountains of Virginia. But instead of the refuge she was seeking, Esther finds herself in the midst of a deadly family feud–and courted by two men on opposite sides of the conflict. All she wants is to run away again. Yet could it be that her past holds the key to reconciliation–and love?
In this gripping story of trust, deception, and bittersweet loss, you’ll discover the true meaning of choices of the heart.

About Laurie Alice: “Eakes has a charming way of making her novels come to life without being over the top,” writes Romantic times of bestselling, award-winning author Laurie Alice Eakes. Since she lay in bed as a child telling herself stories, she has fulfilled her dream of becoming a published author, with a master’s degree in writing fiction from Seton Hill University contributing to her career path. Now she has nearly two dozen books in print. She lives in Texas with her husband and sundry cats and dogs. When asked what she does for fun, she says write. She also loves to read, go for long walks, especially on the beach, and listen to music, especially live music with her husband. She lives in Texas with her husband and sundry pets. She loves watching old movies with her husband in the winter, and going for long walks along Galveston beaches in the summer. When she isn’t writing, she considers that housework is a time to work out plot points, and visiting museums is a recreational activity. Facebook

  • S. E. Thomas (Susan Thomas) is giving Habakkuk’s Plea during the Facebook party tonight!

Though he tries to convince the people to turn to Elohim, they will not listen? Will Habakkuk find a way to reach them before it’s too late? Elohim is testing his heart, testing his compassion. Habakkuk must learn to love the people he is called to serve. But when someone close to him dies, he cries out in agony. “O LORD, how long shall I cry, and You will not hear?” Will Elohim give Habakkuk the answer he longs to hear? Or is this only the beginning of his test of faith?
See the Video Trailer Here:
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About S.E. Thomas: S. E. Thomas (Susan) is a multi-published, award-winning author and an editor, speaker and publisher. She has a B.S.E. in English Education from John Brown University and a master’s in philosophy from the University of Idaho. She owns and operates The Dramatic Pen Press, LLC in Lolo, MT. Susan has been involved in both ministry and writing for over twenty-five years. She has extensive Biblical and theological training, which she loves to incorporate into her work. She writes Biblical historical fiction, modern fiction, westerns, mysteries, YA dystopia/sci-fi/fantasy, Christian drama, and philosophical Christian apologetics. Susan is a missionary kid/preacher’s kid (a.k.a. double-trouble), and is married to a Navajo chemical engineer, Aaron. They have a daughter in college and two sons at home. In Susan’s spare time she volunteers at a life-embracing pregnancy resource center, teaches adult Sunday school, co-leads a home group Bible study, leads a writers’ critique group, quilts, and gardens.

Thank you to all my guest appearing celebrities!

I know you’re making the event special for all the attendees!