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2016 Fall New Releases from Angela Breidenbach

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Gems of Wisdom: The Treasure of Experience is a Dove Foundation Award Recipient. This book has been rated Faith-friendly by The Dove Foundation.

2016 Fall New Release Gems of Wisdom: The Treasure of Experience achieves a bucket list goal for Angela Breidenbach as her first book gaining a Dove Foundation Award. This book has been rated Faith-friendly by The Dove Foundation.

2016 Fall New Releases by Angela Breidenbach

It’s been a busy year leading to a busy Fall new release season for me.

Three books releasing this fall and a couple of new contracts pending…
1. Contemporary romance collection, The Bucket List Dare (including Her Impossible Dream) comes out mid-October. This cover pending…
2. Gems of Wisdom: The Treasure of Experience, non-fiction women’s devotional, helps women cope with the past and become women of courage, confidence, and candor. Releases Oct. 25th. This book earned something really special to me! Gems of Wisdom is a recipient of The Dove Foundation’s “Faith-friendly” Seal of Approval!! Here’s the review on Dove.org. Ironically, a bucket list goal. (Ironic because of the fiction book coming out in the same month that actually carries the words “bucket list”! Truly, I did not see that happening the way it did.)
3. Blue Ribbon Brides (includes Seven Medals & a Bride), Historical Romance Collection, 9 stories of women who win big at the local, state, or national fairs. This book releases Nov. 1st.
4. Next book I’m writing? Fanned Embers for the Second Chance Brides historical romance collection coming out Aug. 2017.
5. After that? Sagebrush Bride in the American Flowers series. It releases Aug. 2017.
6. And the newest? His Indentured Bride in the Captive Brides, another historical romance collection releasing Fall 2017…

I hope you’ll all enjoy them as much as I enjoy writing them 🙂

FYI: Not all the covers are ready yet, but I’ll share as soon as I can.

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EP 14 — Boundaries: Shining Inside

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Common opal

Common opal

Boundaries: Shining Inside

Episode 14 — Opalescence

  • Great appreciation for John Vonhof for leaving a 5-star rating and review on iTunes that says, “Our fast paced world pulls in many directions, whether in our jobs, home life, or relationships. Pressure is constant. Work hard, produce, and deliver. Then do it all over again tomorrow. Grace Under Pressure offers a ray of sunshine to help us stay focused on the truly important things in life. Angela shares from her heart and the result is positive. I encourage you to listen and be encouraged.” Thank you, John!
  • And thank you Melissa M. for retweeting from your account @Melissa_Author #GraceUnderPressure doesn’t mean perfection when you’re insulted. It means to keep trying to be gracious in difficult situations. Thank you, Melissa M!
  • Very appreciative of both @candacehancoc10 and @MargaretBrownly for retweeting #GraceUnderPressure Sometimes the climb goes on & on but the effort strengthens us for the success to come. Thank you Candace and Margaret!

    Zion natural stairs

    Sometimes it’s a tough, uphill climb but the experience is worth it.

Opalescence, based on chapter 3 from Gems of Wisdom: For a Treasure-filled Life. This book is being reissued (later this year) and updated to become Gems of Wisdom: The Treasure of Experience.

Proverbs 17: 17 (NIV) “A friend loves at all times, but a brother was born for adversity.”

  • There’s a difference between owning someone else’s problems and owning my own problems/issues.
  • Boundaries get crossed when others step on our toes or cross into their issues and take them. We steal their potential growth.
  • We can ask for help, but others shouldn’t step in all the time.
  • The opal story: An opal is ancient gel with a lot of water content. My prize possession, an opal ring shattered in extreme cold. Opals have 2-6% water content. The lower the content, the more stable it is. On the surface, it doesn’t show the full content inside. Realize we can’t see inside another person, nor can they fully see what’s inside of us.
  • The mural bench story: An artist broke a lot of beautiful pieces to create a mural on a bench. She used opal mortar to glue the pieces in place. When she was done, she’d created a beautiful bench that drew others to a beautiful resting place.
    • The pieces shattered inside of me and you can become shining experiences can make a difference for others from what we’ve survived.
    • Is it possible that the shattered pieces might be a safe resting place for someone else?
  • The rattlesnake story: How close to someone else’s troubles should you get?
  • When people cross your boundaries, are you willing to live that way? For how long?
  • If not, it’s time to start changing your role.
  • Usually, an about-face is too drastic. Change one degree at a time.
  • Stop owning shame that belongs to another. We may help those we love, be we aren’t defined by the problem.
  • Allow the hurts and difficulties to shimmer from within you as gems of wisdom. Experience that can benefit you and others with the knowledge you’ve gained.
  • The opal is a beautiful gemstone has a lot of rich colors that capture attention. The less water content in an opal makes it more stable. How would it feel to empathize emotionally, but not own someone else’s problems?
  • Ownership is a sneaky pirate.
  • Definition: Empathy — The ability to understand another person’s feelings or abilities.
  • Definition: Ownership — Possessing something.
  • The people you love have their own struggles to fight. They don’t belong to you.
  • Think about it this way: Even if those personal issues were served on a silver platter, they belong to the other person unless you steal it.
  • Practice: Picture an antique silver platter. Put each item back down. Someone else’s worries, fears, financial stress, unkind words, defensiveness, someone else’s opinion of you, unfounded accusations, …what else lingers?
  • Ask yourself: Is it really mine?
  • Let it all go and give it back to the person it belongs to. Visualize the tray back in the hands of the rightful owner.
  • Just as you don’t steal property from someone else, you don’t steal personal issues either. That’s called boundaries. You can offer to help, but you can’t do the living for them.
  • Ownership is not the same thing as empathy.
  • Because you understand what needs to be done doesn’t mean you should be the one to do it.
  • Be compassionate without internalizing (stuffing your pockets with someone else’s stolen treasures.
  • How else does that other person have the opportunity to learn?
  • Begin practicing the gem of wisdom, empathy with boundaries.
  • Empathy without stealing the blessings other people need to learn from the experience they get in difficult circumstances. God may need that person to learn and grow so He can use them to touch a life you’ll never be able to reach.
  • If you steal the opportunity for that other person to gain confidence and courage by going through the difficulty, how will they learn and know what God has called them to do? Don’t steal their blessings.
  • A friend can empathize and encourage, but don’t jump over the line too quickly because you may be the reason they stumble.

Would you like to read more about Gems of Wisdom? 

Gems of Wisdom: For a treasure-filled life. (paperback book)

Gems of Wisdom: For a treasure-filled life. (paperback book)

Did you miss an episode or series you’d like to hear?

Confidence (What’s the difference between confidence and courage?)

Courage (Facing Our Fears…)

Candor (How to speak the truth in love)

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EP — 13 Switch Paradigms: No More Self-Sabotage

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Photo tweeted by @RebekahMillet Tea, Tuesday, and #GraceUnderPressureRadio...Thanks for sharing, Rebekah!

Photo tweeted by @RebekahMillet Tea, Tuesday, and #GraceUnderPressureRadio. Thanks for sharing, Rebekah!

Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom. — Song of Solomon 2:15

Today’s topic delves deeper into the elements of Candor by exploring self-defeating behaviors, pessimism, frustration, and helplessness. You can find more information in the book, Gems of Wisdom: For a treasure-filled life.

A special word of thanks to listener Rebecca Millet of http://diamondsinfiction.blogspot.com/

@RebekahMillet “Here’s what my Tuesday’s looking like. Tea & #GraceUnderPressure Radio. itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ang…@AngBreidenbach

A special word of thanks to listener Amber Weigand-Buckley, editor of Leading Hearts Magazine, who posted on Facebook: “I like to say, “Yes” a lot. But I’ve started to realize, sometimes when I say, “Yes, it means I am distracting myself from God’s plan for me. If I say “yes” to everyone, I’m distracting myself from the path I’m supposed to lead. At the end of my life I’m accountable and so are you. ” —Angela Breidenbach (Thank you for quoting me, Amber! What an honor!) –Love this lady! Listen to this episode of her radio show “Behaving Like a Confident Woman”
Episode 3 http://angelabreidenbach.com/03-confident-woman/

Special thanks to Diana Lesire Brandmeyer who left a very appreciated review on iTunes that says, “So glad I found this podcast. Confidence and courage are not words I’d ever use to describe myself. I’ve listened to all of the podcasts so far and the way I think about myself is already changing. Positive instruction and practical applications that I’ll be using–wait am now using!”

And then she added an email with this idea… “Okay an idea for you- addressing worry and how it affects your confidence, do you let it turn to fear or use it to fuel your actions?” Which, Diana, I want you to know that I used it during the following series on Courage and How to Handle Fears with my interview of actress, Elizabeth Diane Wells. Thank you for helping me continue to improve this show for listeners.

Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom. — Song of Solomon 2:15 (NIV)

  • Underneath the beautiful imagery, the little foxes are the things that damage relationships.
  • An interview with a friend, “Nina”, and another, “Josette”, from Gems of Wisdom: The Treasure of Experience (new title for 2nd edition of Gems of Wisdom: For a Treasure-filled Life.)
    • Trigger dates, repeat incidents, patterns caused Nina and Josette to feel like they relived the same thing over and over.
    • Repetition in negative cycles wear us out and create frustration and helplessness.
    • Other people can make it so much easier, but the closest people often won’t help.
    • Search for answers, ask lots of questions.
    • If you don’t get answers, ask someone else. Look for experts to become an expert.
    • Begin to organize repeat situations by writing them down.
    • Offer suggestions to others going through the same thing. It helps us feel the experience is valuable as we enrich other people’s lives.
    • What gifts have you gained by going through the experience?
  • Plan for predictable situations. Planning lessens frustration.
  • Are you caring for someone or a situation that has predictable elements?
  • The act of writing it down starts the brain working on the solution.
  • Think about the mother-of-pearl. A beautiful natural gem has a natural enemy, the fan worm. Parasites that bore into the shell and can wipe out the shells. Fresh water kills the fan worm pests.
  • What if you could preplan for repetition and stop it before it wipes you out?
  • Our brains are like coffee pots. Put in the idea and let it percolate. There’s a mystery in it, but the idea will be fully brewed.
  • Are you willing to keep asking? Sometimes you need to rely on more than one person.
  • Can you mentor someone with the gift you’ve discovered?
  • Hardship is opportunity that allows us to discover our giftings and callings.
  • It’s easy to get worn out and cynical. But like the character in the movie, Ground Hog Day, look for the beauty in repetition that gives us the chance to become an expert.
  • What if all of us together are able to find predictable moments and help others with what we know? Hundreds of us? Wow, we’d be a nourishing tidal wave instead of a destructive one in how we change the world!
  • Empathy creates trust. People trust those who’ve overcome difficult experiences similar to their own.
  • Encourage others with gentle truth.
  • “What about me?” We all ask it. But self-defeating behaviors make us focus on ourselves and create grudges that weigh us down. Frustration begins to fester and hurt. Realize the other person is too small to come outside themselves. Move on from the pattern of ask/refuse. Look for others that can support/assist instead.
  • Some supporters are the most unlikely people. Be open to unexpected sources of support.
  • My stepmom is a special person who has been so supportive. I’m so grateful for that every day! Stepmoms are really special people who often don’t get recognition for their support and sacrifice. Thank you to mine for her support!
  • What if you mess up and the pattern happens again? Give yourself grace. It will happen again. Think it through and try again.
  • Play the “what if” game to brainstorm solutions.
  • Live in the choice long enough to allow a result to happen. Sometimes we don’t live in the choice long enough and keep bouncing all over the place. Look at the pros/cons and adjust.
  • A woman of candor is willing to be honest enough to talk to someone else and to offer help when someone else asks. She’s willing to share and hear the truth.
  • Tips from People In The Trenches Caring for a Loved One 10 Tips from the Trenches.
  • Ultimately, think about those things that repeat so you aren’t constantly caught unaware.
  • Self-defeating behaviors are the little foxes that we don’t plan and prepare for.
  • Please send Angela Breidenbach a tweet, a facebook post, a note from the contact page, or post a comment here with your thoughts, ideas, questions.
  • I’m truly honored you spent your time with me. May you be blessed that you may bless others.

Our new topic for the next series on Grace Under Pressure Radio will be Boundaries

Did you miss past episodes? Easy link to subscribe on iTunes.

Episode 1 starts the series on Confidence

Episode 5 starts the series on Courage

Episode 10 starts the series on Candor

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